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No. 80 [Reply & Quote]
You know, as far as I can tell from your posts, your biggest problem is not that you've convinced yourself that you're a loser and a failure. It's not that you ARE a loser, it's that you keep telling yourself that it's true and therefore set yourself up for failure before you ever even take a crack at something. The saddest part about your post isn't that you can't get the girl. Far from it actually. The sad part is that the girl actually showed interest and, because of your deluded self image, you ruined your chance. SHE doesn't need to be wiped from your brain, your BRAIN needs to be taught how to deal with infatuation.
First thing's first: there isn't a woman on this planet that should make you feel this way, at least not a chick you've only seen twice. The main thing you should concentrate on is learning to rope in your emotions. Don't turn yourself into some callous, unfeeling dick, but definitely learn to recognize the difference between infatuation and love. Love is an emotion that grows over time, not something that hits you at first sight and makes you want to marry this chick and hold her in your arms and yaddayaddayadda.
I can tell you right now that drying to dull your emotions through escapes like porn, alcohol, and weed will do absolutely nothing to help you here, in fact, continuing down that course will make you unable to deal with any kind of emotional problem in the future. All these things are fun and are perfectly acceptable in a recreational sense, but using them as some sort of aid to your heartbreak leads to dependency and addiction. I suggest that you quit all three of these things completely until you learn to cope with your problems on your own, then you can go back to using them recreationally as they were intended.
The only way to deal with problems is to face them head on. You see a girl you like? Talk to her. Don't wait to get her alone, go right up to her when she's with her friends and introduce yourself. This is gonna be scary as shit, and I can tell you from experience that you will fail sometimes. You might get laughed at, you might just get blown off. So what? At leas
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